upcycledbliss wrote:Sorry this is so long, I do value getting detailed accounts of experience instead of advice. you might not. This isn't the same as experience in Japan but my experience living alone. I have lived in Michigan, florida, south Carolina, and Boston. Michigan writh family Florida with college and jobs, and the others through summer research programs at other university in provided campus housing paid by grants.
No apologies needed! I really appreciate you taking the time tell me about your experience living alone. It's always valuable to hear about others' experiences. Thank you for sharing yours.
Siyris wrote: To clarify, I wasn't trying to sound condescending, or give a reality check. I just know that, so far in my experience and that of the people who came the same year as me that I have made friends with, the people who had the biggest stars in their eyes are also those who are crashing the hardest right now, even to the point of breaking contract. So please don't think of it as a reality check but rather giving details that might have slipped your mind (or really, any other aspiring JET who reads this thread's mind).
I'm sorry if I have offended it was not the intent.
As to silly mentions of laundry -- it might sound silly to some people, however anyone who's been in a really dark place at any point in their life will know that a bunch of small silly things that add up on top of an already stressful situation can cause seemingly stupid emotional meltdowns. So while on the surface it seems silly - it is the sort of thing that someone never having lived away from home, or never having had to deal with every chore themselves, will not have thought of. I figured some warnings of the not-so-nice bits of JET were worth giving, considering that the number one complaint I've heard from the people who came this past year was that we were all given the 'shiny happy, wonderland' view of JET and very little of the negatives... even on this forum.
I wasn't really offended by your original post, don't worry. And I get what you mean by the silly small things being the catalyst to a huge meltdown, that's normally how it happens for me. As I said above, I appreciate first hand accounts of others' experiences. So, thank you for your input.
But, as I said, I am fully aware that if I do get into the program, it's going to be hard. Really, very, terribly hard. And that's all the more reason for me to do it.
And I suppose I should have been more direct with the "I don't need a reality check" comment.
No, actually I don't. But some actual advice would be helpful.
SeaJay wrote:I adore Japan and have for almost my whole life, so it has always been a dream to at least visit...
Cute. But still not quite helpful. Your very first post, that was helpful. These past two? Not so much.